appreciate things in the same way as you appreciated them when they were new

This post was written by DoctorJay on January 19, 2011
Posted Under: old post,relationship

Sex and the male rat – did I get your attention? When they place a new female rat in the cage of a satiated male rat he becomes interested. But we are human beings and can overcome our physical urges.

We get used to people and things and have the saying familiarity breaths contempt. It is a matter of attitude. You can appreciate anything you desire and you can become staid and allow things become stale very rapidly.

Now from the post in 2000:

So here I am spending all sitting in my brand new car going “Vroom…. Vrooom….” without even turning the engines on  and it’s a great thrill (I am joking, had to work but I wish to make a point).

When we buy a new object we are so proud. We enjoy and appreciate it. We treat the object as though it was a person or a living animal. We look after it. Then time passes as it must pass…

What happens is that as an object gets old, we get used to it and no longer appreciate it. As I have mentioned a few times before when you appreciate someone or something the value increases. Also when you stop to appreciate the value decreases.

In order to keep something as though you had just got it you must keep your attitude of gratitude towards having it. Thus I was always so happy with my old car. I felt so lucky to own it. I could just as easily go “Vroom…. Vrooom….” in the six year old car as with the new car.

It’s the internal attitude which matters. Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder but this is not the external eye with iris, retina and optic nerves. The eye that truly sees, is the inner eye of imagination and visualization. Here it’s up to you. You have internal rose colored glasses as well as any other color you’d like….

A few days ago I wrote about expectations and self fulfilling prophesies. The same is true about our attitude towards things and people. Our internal attitudes determine our external perceptions….

So see people and things “anew….” And people and things once more become like new….

My car is now nearly eleven years old and I still enjoy it as much as the first day I got it.

Most important things which can get better with age are relationships. It is true that variety is the spice of life. You can have variety with old friends as you grow with each other by doing new activities together. You can visit places you have never neem to.

There restaurants, foods, movies, plays, and so on to discover together.

Remember, whoever whatever you appreciate increases its value for you.


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