Change disappointments into opportunities for growth
I was reading a book on business. It is composed of twelve chapters. Each is an interview with a business leader or academic. The first chapter is about disappointment and how we deal with it.
Disappointments are facts of life. They are as common as birth, death and taxes. However, we never learn how to deal with disappointment. As children we fall down and are told, “Boys don’t cry.” Girls are told even more so not to feel their disappointments.
We are taught denial from early on. Especially in this country (USA) we are taught to have positive thinking. We have seen the Secret or heard of similar ideas. We know that we are on some level responsible for everything that happens to us. This can even lead to New Age Guilt. We are sick. We come down with cancer and we feel guilty because “we caused it because we were negative.”
Phooey (I was going to use a much stronger word but my boss may not like it) on that type of thought. I hope to God I never get cancer. But if I do, I’ll scream and grieve and do all sorts of things before accepting it.
Do not get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with positive thinking and having a great attitude. The point is that you need to acknowledge your disappointments first and then see what has to be learned and then how you can grow from the disappointments of life.
In the books they talked about how Winston Churchill’s disappointments in World War One (he was the First Lord of Admiralty) led to strengthening of his character and allowed him to become such a leader in World War Two.
People of character change disappointments into opportunities for growth. They allow time for grieving and then pick themselves up and move on learning the lessons and do not blame themselves or others.
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