counter negative experiences using NLP

This once more one of those old post I’m moving over from the 365 ways to boost your self esteem series. It teaches you to use an NLP (neurolinigustic programming) method to overcome negative emotions and fears. I used to be very afraid of injection needles (a minor phobia) but wanted to donate blood. I used this technique on myself and overcame my phobia. That was about eighteen years ago and I have donated more than sixty four pints (eight gallons) of blood since then…

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Recently a client, let’s call him Joe (name changed – story retold with permission) came to me extremely angered at the situation at work. He had been putting in more hours than most and was doing a very critical job for the company. He was singled out over a misunderstanding and was told off. Now I don’t know what actually went on at his work. What was important is that Joe felt slighted and hurt.

We first did a short hypnosis session called the safe space meditation. In this guided meditation, I induced a trance state and then took Joe his safe space which is a wondrous paradise of a garden in the mind’s eye. There are various areas within your safe space. Some of these are: self-esteem area; healing area; library; memory hall. In Joe’s case we concentrated on the self-esteem area. Under trance I reminded Joe about all the different successes he has had at work and at other areas of his life.

After giving Joe the needed ego strength and boosting his self-esteem by reminding him of his previous achievements we started the NLP intervention. In Joe’s case we went through the negative incident which was still bothering him. The first time he remembered the event exactly the way it was as vividly as possible. He remembered the event through his own eyes seeing what he saw, hearing what he heard and feeling what he had felt. Then we ran though the memory in reverse adding a little circus music in the background. Now we ran the memory in the forward direction making the participants a little ridiculous like adding Mickey Mouse ears to the boss who was telling Joe off. We kept running the memory back and forth making it more ridiculous each time until the memory no longer had any negative effect.

This method can be used with any negative memory including minor phobias. The method consists of remembering the event as well as you can and then running the memory backward and forward in time each time adding a visual or auditory element making the negative participants of the event more laughable until the negative feelings are gone. Next you check the memory by trying to remember it through your own eyes seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard. When you have done this exercise enough you cannot help but remember the event in the new laughable way and the negative emotions will have disappeared.

Please try this method of negating negative memories out with something small which is still bothering you. As you develop expertise in using this method you can use it to negate stronger negative memories.

You can also use this method in anticipation of a meeting which may induce fear and anxiety. If you are about to go for an interview or have to speak in front of a large audience you can imagine the audience being naked or wearing clown clothes or whatever makes them less daunting.

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