Do you want to be right or happy

Do you want to be right or happy – I first heard that wise statement in an audio by Wayne Dyer. So often in life that is the choice we have. We can argue with someone to prove that we are right (only to ourselves as the more you resist and the more you argue the less you convince) or we can decide that it’s not worth it and we can be happy.

The Buddha said, "Life is suffering." He suggested that by accepting whatever is we can diminish that suffering. This acceptance is not a passive resignation of the events of your life as destiny, but acceptance so you can actively change the situation….

Each day we suffer because things do not go our way. Again if we have no expectations of how things should go we would suffer much less….

Unfortunately so often we make the situation worse by actually resisting and insisting on being right. For example someone drives badly in front of you and cuts you off. You nearly damage your hand by pressing the horn (as though the harder you press the louder it would sound). Next gestures are exchanged and you have increased your level of stress.

Or the same event happens and you thank God that there was no accident and you remember that at times you may have done the same to someone else accidentally and forgive the person.  Understand that you are not the target and the person would have done that no matter who was at that spot in the road at that time.

Ask yourself, "Do I want to be right or happy?" At any given time when you are about to be annoyed you have the choice of giving in to your ego’s desire to be right or your soul’s need for peace, bliss and happiness.

You basically have very little time to intervene consciously and stop yourself from getting angry without thought . Once you allow yourself to be ruled by your ego, by your desire to be right you get into an autopilot emotional mode that is highly difficult to control.

Thus in the above example you have less than half a second between the time a person cuts you off and keeping your peace of mind by deciding to be happy rather than right. A great way of doing this is to bless the other person immediately. I often bless every person on the freeway whether they are overtaking me or I’m overtaking them. This you could say is an insurance against being bothered by negative facts of life.

In fact blessing everyone you meet will help you be happy rather than right. Greet each person you meet silently with unconditional love and blessing in your heart and you will find yourself at peace and blessed.

Wayne Dyer books:

Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao

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