Holding on to negative emotions

Human beings are creatures of habit (in fact all life is derived from habituation and memory).

This works great in teaching us to take action. It helps us move toward “good things” and avoid the “bad ones.”

Unfortunately often the situation changes and yet our behavior does not change. We do things by rote.

Strong emotions can become habits in a single event learning. Thus we can have phobias and suffer PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) from a single strong incidence.

For now I do not want to write about such strong acute holding on to negative emotions as they need one to one therapy in person to overcome.

I’m talking about a little tiff you may have had with a friend, or being angry with your significant other thanks to what is called emotions coming from the lower more ancient parts of the brain (the reptilian brain)  where you lose control of yourself.

The problem is not the inciting incidence, but the fact that we hold on to the negative emotions way too long.

We bring all our baggage from our childhood (when we did not understand and were at the mercy of the adults around us) to the current situation.  Our hot buttons are pushed. We feel injustice (comes from a feeling of helplessness and weakness – again back to the childhood).

We hold on to the negative feelings even though our adult rational mind understands that deep down holding the grudge is childish and only hurts us. If we could drop out of ourselves and observe the situation objectively we may even say o ourselves:

“Don’t be so childish.”

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And this dropping out of the situation and observing it objectively is the start of healing the event.

I’ll write on how to use the three position system of imagination to remove negative emotions and allow healing later.

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