Humility and the power of don’t know leads to responsibility

This post was written by DoctorJay on July 15, 2010
Posted Under: ease of life,Success

Continuing with responsibility series we get to humility and the power of don’t know. Again this is paradoxical when you are flexible and accept that you may be wrong, when you are humble and know that there is much that you don’t know, you act in a wiser more responsible manner.

I was talking to my friend Albert, yesterday, and he noted that people who imagine they have a direct line to the truth (especially those who imagine they talk to God or know what God wants) start wars and kill each other. However, people who are ready to admit that there may be a chance that they may be wrong never kill anyone else for the sake of some belief.

The same is true with personal relationships. People who are dogmatic and say, “My way or the highway,” do not end up with long term influence. You may even be able to bully your way to temporary acceptance of your demands but in the long term you are liable to cause resistance and rebellion.

The same is even more true of intrapersonal communication (self-talk). True believers who scream dogmatically about morality (or whatever) hide the other side of their personality in what C.G. Jung calls the Shadow – that part of the unconscious psyche  that we throw all unwanted thoughts – the part we disown and project on others. Thus we find preachers and politicians who absolutely judge others and condemn certain actions as abomination doing exactly the same action.

By being accepting and nonjudgmental you accept your self and your fantasies and the chances are you will not have to act them out the way many bigots do.  When you admit you don’t know and remain humble in all situations, you do not start fights. You persuade the others and allow yourself to be persuaded and act out of compassion and compromise.

By the way there is a great difference between humility and false humility which is in fact a form of braggadocio and pride. True humility says it the way it is without pride or shame. True humility is  based on the truth.

For example my mathematical intelligence is very high and I am dyslexic and hence my spelling is atrocious in all the languages I know and have studied. These are facts and humility allows me to share them with others without pride and shame, False humility would be to pretend my mathematical abilities are less than they really are hoping to get my friends say, “Oh no, you are brilliant.”

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