Overcome the fear of failure and achive more

Recently I wrote about five fears which stop our success . One of the most important one of these fears is the fear of failure or fear of rejection. It is interesting to note that children do not suffer from such fear and that’s one of the reasons they learn so fast and achieve so much.

Fear of failure is quite common in adults for obvious reasons. Adults want success and yet having heard so many negative suggestions as they grew up have lost their natural persistence and are ready to give up at the first encounter with failure.

Yest, only those who face up to this type of fear are able to rise above their fears and achieve their goals. On the other hand most are paralyzed by fear of failure and are thus prevented from realizing their full potential.

The most destructive part of the fear of failure is one’s inability to accept criticism or feedback well. Instead, they tend to magnify their mistakes with negative self talk like calling themselves stupid or other denigrating words. There are also instances wherein the fear of failure is so immense that people procrastinate to the point of not trying for fear of failing. That way when they fail they can try that they were not trying to succeed.

Steps to Overcoming This Fear

Why must fear of failure be given attention on, you might ask. Unless you are able to let go of the fear of failure, then you are unable to achieve your desired result. Oftentimes, fear of failure produces negative thoughts that reduce your actual potential. You think you are incapable of achieving something when it fact you can.

Once you are brave enough to do something about this fear, then you are able to provide yourself more freedom to do what you need to do and succeed at it. Here are some basic methods you can try.

• Do Something About the Fear – feel the fear and do it anyway.
  Fear of failure immobilizes you. You become so wrapped up with the fear that you will eventually fail that you rather not try. But when you don’t try, you neither fail nor succeed. Therefore, make that decisive action towards conquering your fear. If you should fail, then you will create awareness of the factors that will contribute towards your success. If you succeed, then you can reward yourself with that. The interesting thing is that the more you act, the easier action becomes and the less you’ll suffer from this fear of failure.
• Find Alternatives – do something new and different
  There are several factors that contribute as to why you fail or succeed at doing something. Whichever it is, you need to look at your behavior towards something and the result achieved. But the most important step you can take is never to associate your failure with yourself . You are not your results. You can always get back up and try other alternative methods to achieve your goals. You can try doing things differently as the methods you use could be the reason why you failed in your attempt.
• Learning From Failure – understand there’s no failure only results
  This is the best that you can take out from the experience and also one of the more effective ways to get rid of this fear. Instead of putting all the blame on yourself as to why you failed in your endeavors, take it as a learning experience instead. This will enable you to prevent failing in the future yet again.
  Consider the following questions as they can provide the answers in your need to conquer the fear of failure:
  • Where did you commit mistakes?
  • How could you prevent the mistake from happening?
  • Where can I make improvements?

Failures must always be translated into a learning experience. That way, you have more opportunities to learn and do better. After all, if you have not experienced any type of failure, then you would not have the means towards changing for the better. Learn from Edison who when asked if he was dejected when he failed thousands of times to create the light bulb the great inventor replied, "I never failed. I succeeded in discovering so many ways which would not work. I knew that I would eventually run out of things which would not work and find the one which would."

In terms of conquering this type of fear, it is important that you learn how to confront and overcome them. Or else, you could end up repeating the same mistake or worse that your fear of failure could prevent you from following your goals.

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