Forgiveness and the clearing of negative emotions is a linchpin of my therapeutic and behavior modification work. Thus whether I work on weight management, smoking cessation, pain management, exam anxiety or performance enhancement for sales and management I always include a section on clearing negative feelings and forgiveness.
One of the largest impediments to the good [...]
Adapted from David K. Reynolds, Ph.D. who writes about Constructive Living, based on the Japanese psychological systems of Morita lifeway and Naikan therapy of Dr. Shomo Morita:
Unnecessary comparison of your self negatively with others. You do your best and leave the rest to the universe and you will be happy.
Fighting reality. The best way to [...]
Continuing the series on forgiveness and release from resentment anger and other negative emotions, we have the question:
How do you know you have forgiven?
Many simply claim that they have forgiven and are free of anger, resentment and other negative emotions toward the other.
These people may even believe themselves to be free of negative feelings toward [...]
Earlier I wrote that without forgetting there’s no forgiving. I mentioned that in reality it is impossible to forget anything once it enters your long term memory.
What happens is that you don’t remember things.
When you forgive, you tend not to remember the events that you forgave. However, there are times that you may remember the [...]
I emphasize forgiveness as the linchpin of all my change work. I have noticed many unexpected (dare I say miraculous) results from forgiveness. There is a most powerful forgiveness exercise which comes from Cabala. It is a secret that few know about and use. I heard about it a few years ago but have not [...]
Some people say:
“I could forgive, but I could never forget!”
On the other hand there are those who say:
“If you haven’t forgotten, you haven’t forgiven.”
Who is right?
Both
It really depends on what you mean by forgetting. Technically we do not forget anything. It’s just that we do not remember events like what you had for lunch forty [...]
What is the miracle of forgiveness?
My educational background is in hard sciences:
Chemistry.
Biochemistry.
Brain Sciences.
Computer Sciences.
I was trained not to believe in “woo-woo” things like miracles.
At the same time as a scientist I was trained to be a good observer and report whatever I see….
My clients, people who come to my seminars. friends, family, even people I [...]
Forgiveness of self and others is the linchpin of my therapy and coaching. So many times in my seminars I use the metaphor of burning your hand on a hot stove as a two year old. Even if it may scar you physically for life – I have a tiny scar on my left wrist [...]
I was planning to write this post two weeks ago and then a few things happened which stopped me from doing so. I had an issue with my web hosting company which caused all my sites to go offline for a few days. This site (our main site) is the first site to go back [...]
Many years ago I had the good fortune to be studying Chemistry under the Nobel prize winner, Sir Derick Barton, at Imperial College, London. The nearest underground station was South Kensington and we would walk up Exhibition Road to the Chemistry department.
There was an underground tunnel which went part of the way and typically [...]
