Anxiety

Understanding & Coping with Anxiety

Understanding & Coping with Your Anxiety

  Sara (These stories are based on actual people. A few facts have been changed to protect their anonymity.) breathed in the cool fresh air. Her car smoothed along the open corridors of Highway 395. White yellow early morning sunlight poured through open windows. She felt the serenity and peacefulness of this wondrous break of day. She noticed how the sky sat like an upside-down blue bowl seeming to encapsulate the mountainous landscape. She heard the birds’ songs bounce from the trees, reverberating and intensifying their orchestral warmup. She relaxed behind the wheel, as she drove back to school after her Spring break in the Sierras. It was good to have time alone. She hoped that this, the last and final semester of graduate school, would pass quickly. Suddenly, out-of-nowhere,she felt “It”. Tingling slowly began in her left fingertips. She shook her hand and continued to drive. But the tingling persisted, and crawled, like a spider, from her wrist, up her arm, onto her neck and into the left side of her face. Sara’s heart raced. She never experienced anything like it before. She prided herself on her good health, especially since all the adults in her family had had heart attacks or strokes. “Oh my God, I’m having a stroke. Here I am miles from home and civilization, all alone. No one will find me. I won’t be able to finish school; there goes my dream of a Master’s, a good job. I’ll be dead or deformed…” Panicked,she pulled off the highway into a rest area. “What should I do? Who can help me? What if no one is around?What if I ask someone and I end up getting robbed?” By now, Sara’s entire left arm and face were numb.She stopped the car and just sat there, chest pounding, feeling lightheaded and more scared than she could ever remember. She breathed deeply, trying to calm herself. And then, slowly she noticed the numbness started to disappear.Checking herself, she moved her hand across her face, prodding and poking, then down her left arm squeezing it from top to bottom. It had sensation. Then she shook her left hand and rubbed her fingers together. The numbness was gone. Shaken, she carefully continued the drive home. She didn’t know what happened to her, and tried to put it out of her mind. Years later, following similar instances, Sara would begin to understand what had taken place,that she had had a Panic Attack. But for now, the journey was frightening. Sara’s story is real. She is one of the millions of Americans who experience anxiety.Statistics state that 20 – 37 million Americans suffer from anxiety of some type. The estimate of 20 million means that 1 in 9 people have some problem with anxiety! Not everyone who experiences symptoms of anxiety has a panic attack, nor even an anxiety disorder. Anxiety,in and of itself, is a normal emotion. All of us have had times when we feel anxious. Sometimes the anxiety may even be helpful to us by prodding us to complete some task. Excess and intense anxiety over time, however,creates a problem. It throws us off balance, disrupts our lives, and creates chaos, or a lack of order. It is this excessive anxiety that defines anxiety disorders as outlined in the current manual mental health professionals use, known as the DSM- V. On the other hand, persons like Sara who have panic attacks can develop panic disorder. Sara’s symptoms were intense and seemed to come out-of-the-blue. She didn’t know it, but she had had a panic attack. Her symptoms included heart palpitations, sweating, numbness and tingling in her extremities,light headedness, trembling and fear of dying. What is anxiety? In its simplest definition, anxiety is “worry or uneasiness about what may happen,” or “a tense emotional state”. However, all of us experience some anxiety. Some anxiety is part of our everyday lives,and at times may even help us to accomplish tasks. However, too much anxiety, intensely felt over time is a problem.Anxiety affects our whole beings – body, mind, spirit. It affects us physiologically & behaviorally,psychologically, and spiritually. Physiologically: physical symptoms may include: tension, sweating, heart palpitations, increased heart rate, dry mouth, stomach/gastrointestinal distress. Behaviorally: anxiety can sabotage our actions, affect our speech, or even our memory. Psychologically & spiritually: we feel apprehensive, distressed, we may fear we are going crazy. We may even feel some amount of detachment, or think we’re going to die. How does Anxiety differ from Stress? Hans Seyle, the father of stress research, says stress occurs when “our body responds to a demand in a nonspecific way”. What does that mean? Simply put, when we experience any stressor, our bodies’ balance/equilibrium gets shaken up and we react. Something can happen, and we respond to it. The response may or may not have anxiety attached to it. For example, Ron, a fire fighter, worked on the team putting out major brush fires. His body became tired during his long hours on the line, but he did not feel emotionally anxious. On the other hand, cumulative stress over time can lead to the development of an anxiety disorder. Learn More About Dr. Kindle Connect wiht Dr. Kindle

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy How it changed my life forever

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy How it changed my life forever

“There is no good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare’s Hamlet When I was a student at USC School of Social Work our Freudian based psychodynamic orientation was eye opening and informative. It was fun to be able to conceptualize a person’s life and problems within that framework. But I was not quite sure what to do with it when faced with a real live person sitting in front of me pouring out her story. A couple years later, while at work, a flyer was circulated. I don’t remember what it said. Something to the effect that “Aaron T. Beck, M.D., will be speaking about Cognitive Therapy, a new form of therapy with positive results.” And on top of that, that presentation was a few blocks from my work. It was meant to be. The room at the Ambassador Hotel in L.A. was packed full of clinicians. I settled into a chair in the back of the room. Aaron Beck stepped on stage and introduced his co-speaker, Christine Padesky, Ph.D., a young woman and protégé he had met while at UCLA. My life was about to change forever. And so would my clients lives change with it. The premise of CBT is so simple, and yet, back then, so revolutionary. In it’s simplest and easiest form, CBT states that the way we think (about ourselves, others, our future, the world) affects the way we feel and the way we feel affects the way we behave and interact with one another. Problem is, we don’t know the depths of our thoughts but they have an effect on us regardless. We continually feel them and act on them. Problem is, many of our thoughts are just simply wrong. So, if I think I am incapable of learning math, I may feel anxious whenever the teacher presents a math problem. I freeze. My brain shuts down. I cannot learn math. The teacher reacts (usually negatively) and focuses on the smart kids. So now, I really don’t learn math. My thoughts are reinforced. And I truly become dumb at math. That, by the way, is a real live example from my life. Girls, back in the day, were thought to be rather incapable of learning math like the boys, and anyway, it really wasn’t needed, except, as my third grade teacher said, “To be able to make kitchen curtains.” Back then, at age 8, I already knew there was no way on earth I wanted to sew kitchen curtains. Somehow, the idea was insulting. And no, I still don’t sew, and forget math! We develop our lives according to our beliefs about ourselves. Fact is, I probably could have been competent at math. If I had been taught to correct that thinking, my math skills would have improved. The light bulb in my brain went on that day that Aaron Beck spoke. After that, Christine Padesky offered a year-long training course about CBT, but alas, only to PhDs. At that time, I had my LCSW. The following year, however, she opened it to Masters’ Level clinicians and I signed up to attend. We were so fortunate that Aaron Beck himself was able to teach us when he was in town. See the picture of the group of us smiling away on the last day of that life-changing course. Learn More About Dr. Kindle Connect with Dr Kindle

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Adolescence isn't easy

Adolescence Isn’t Easy

By Colleen Ohlman The World Health Organization (WHO) defines an adolescent as any person between the ages of 10 and 19. Adolescence is referred to as the period of transition between childhood and adulthood. If you are the parent of an adolescent, you may have already recognized some major changes going on with your child. Most of these changes are normal and a natural part of this transition from child to adult. However, there are some changes in behavior/thinking that might be a cause for concern and may need to be addressed. So how do you know if your child is experiencing “normal” symptoms or something more concerning? You know your child and if something just isn’t right, listen to your intuition. Chances are it may be right. If your child is grumpy, hormonal, moody or testing boundaries with you- that is probably normal. I have three teen children of my own and the power struggle is real! 🙂 However, if your child is showing signs of withdrawing, self-isolating, or major changes in behavior, sleeping or eating patterns, you should begin to pay extra attention to what’s going on and try to talk to them. Adolescents are experiencing what I refer to as a limbo period. Not a child, but not yet an adult. This can be an incredibly frustrating time of life for a person. They want to begin to express new ideas, thoughts and experiences but often won’t be taken seriously as they are “just a kid”. They are finding themselves, exploring their sexual identities, and making their way in a new social realm, all while their bodies are being flooded with hormones. This is not easy. As a youth specialist, I work primarily with adolescents and I can’t tell you how often I hear the phrase, “My parents don’t understand me”. They feel their thoughts and feelings are not validated. They feel misunderstood. They feel alone. These feelings can lead to distress. Try talking more openly to your child. Dig into those topics that are normally not discussed. They may think it’s “awkward” (a word I hear often) but it gets less uncomfortable the more you keep that dialogue going. Don’t just talk, listen. Be an active listener to your child. Let them know that you care about how they feel. Don’t assume they know as much. If he/she isn’t comfortable opening up to you and your gut is telling you that something isn’t right, it’s okay to reach out on their behalf. Be your child’s advocate. We are not less of a parent because our children prefer to talk to an objective person. It makes us better parents for getting them the help they need and deserve. I’m here to help if you feel your adolescent can benefit from talking to someone. I’m also here if you, as a parent, would like to discuss how to better navigate the world of parenting. Anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, life changes, fears, social interaction struggles, parenting skills, self-harm, eating issues, or suicidal ideation. Please call Life Focus Center and ask for Colleen 626-330-7990

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